I wonder...

I have been spending much time lately thinking of my Kd

and the fact that because of Eskimo that she carries,

I will soon, if all goes well, be a grandmother.

Yesterday my thoughts were all about thinking

of a friend of mine, who after 10 years of marriage, found

herself going through an ugly divorce.

Although she had no

children and she knew the marriage

had to end, what hurt her the most was that her in-laws

from that day acted as though she had never existed.

They erased the 10 years she spent in their lives as though

it had never happened. She cried when she found out

that her ex-husband refused to allow

his parents to contact her and had them get rid of the

wedding pictures. Her ex mother in law, because

the pictures were so nice, just cut her out of the pictures and

saved the album......

I cannot understand how this happens and it makes me wonder...

I have told Kd and baby boy that I would never be able to

do this. I have told them that they must do their best

to assure that their relationship survives all the

bumps and bruises of life because I could never, never

have a life without Kd in it.

From the moment I met her, I knew she would be my

daughter-in-law and from the moment my baby boy made

this an official thing, she was part of us, part of the Riera family.

She will forever be my child, one I share with her real parents

but part of me all the same.

I could never live my life without her in it.

If ever they found themselves in a position that divorce was

evident, I would feel sorry for the next woman baby boy

would love. I would probably accept it because that is how I am,

I would love anyone my children love but

Kd, Kd will always, always be my daughter-in-law.

My life would be incomplete without her in it,

without her family in my life.

Not only does she love my son in the way I wanted for him

but she is my friend, we understand each other and have

the kind of relationship that we can talk about anything.

If she is every unhappy with me she does not hesitate

to get it cleared up and it would be the same if I was

ever unhappy with her.

I love spending time with her like I love spending time

with my babies and when I don't see her as often as I'd like

I long for her, like yesterday, I wished she would have

been off to eat gumbo with us.

I love that I can get her excited and "on board' to all these

family gathering antics I make up in my head like

pumpkin carving, which is coming up soon.

Erasing her from my life can never happen and so

I pray for their marriage and am so proud of how

they work on their relationship and how well

the get along. I love this girl as I love my babies

and forever she will be my daughter-in-law.

I am glad that I am not the type of person who

can erase years off my life as though they never existed.

I love you Kd and am honored that you will be

the mother of my grandchildren, I will never have

to worry about these children with a mother such as you.