HELPING OTHERS IS NOT A BOTHER

"I hate to bother you…."

"I didn't ask you to help because I know you have so much to do…"

" I didn't tell you because I'm such a bother.."

We all hear these things, I hear them often.

Shoot, I have even said them myself.

On those times when you are afraid to ask for help,

or someone sees you struggling and they asks what they

can do to help, spill it, let them help.

Just this weekend, in conversation

I offered my help anytime and before I could get the

sentence out, her head was shaking no.

It happened again yesterday when speaking to someone I 

love dearly, asked her why she didn't tell me what we were speaking

of earlier and she said she didn't want to bother me.

If you are that person, that person so full of pride that it is

hard to ask for help, I share this thought for contemplation….

Maybe the one who can help you is the one who 

really needs to help. Sometimes, your need is more

for the other one who gets great gratitude in helping 

someone who truly needs it. As I explain this over the wknd,

I think I had my love look at it differently.

"You know sometimes we who offer the help needs to do that,

for us to do God's work, to be a disciple."

She then shakes her head yes. Well, that makes sense.

Sometimes we want to do His work, but we are not

sure who needs it. If you ask, that gives us the opportunity to help.

My favorite line to those I love, first I ask them to make a deal 

with me then,

"If you promise to ask if you need something, I promise to 

say no if I can't help."

This week a high school friends' son had a tragedy happen.

First he lost his precious daughter, now his son and his

family  has lost all they own. In both instances my friend

and his wife, have seen the silver lining. His daughter left

this world but left behind a child for them to love, 

His son and his family lost all their material possessions 

but escaped the fire with all of their lives.

Still, the "Monkey on their back", "the devil"

needs to leave them. I had an opportunity to help here,

to do what God would want me to do. I sent a small contribution.

My friend said I didn't have to but the were going to be humble

and accept because it was really needed. 

In his acceptance, I was a disciple.

"WHAT SO EVER YOU DO, FOR THE LEAST OF YOUR

BROTHERS, THAT YOU DO UNTO ME."

Long story to explain one simple statement.

If you need help, ask, the world is full of people who want 

to help. If they can't help they will tell you no, or at

least I will….