Today is 7 years that BB decided to go into
rehab. and kick the habit of drug addiction.
It would be easier for some to just forget this day.
Yet in the Riera home it will always be a day
of new life. Not just for BB but for all of us Riera's.
Our small family of 4 was in terrific pain,
scared and trying to find a way to go forward
when one of our own was dying.
Baby Girl played a most important part in
his finding sobriety and in the day to day mundane
world we sometimes forget to place the accomplishments
of these two children on a pedestal.
BG decided that it was easier to not have a brother
at all than to have a brother that was not committed
to her and the betterment of the family.
She at the young age of 14 had to watch her
Mother not be able to pull her body out of bed,
to hold her as she cried. She had to watch her
Daddy's anger of her brother yet she was the strongest.
She decided to just pretend he didn't exist.
BB would call me in his stupor and beg me to have
BG speak with him and she would not relent.
It was in this way that helped BB find sobriety.
BG sometimes gets labeled as the "hard ass"
of the family however, in a lot of ways she is just like me.
She believes in standing by her word but forgiving
when you make the changes that need to happen
to better yourself.
It was in her forgiveness of her brother
that I believe some days kept him sober.
BB's job of sobriety was hard in the beginning.
Hard to watch as his parent.
BG became his best friend and stood beside him
through his first 2 years as his best friend.
So today we celebrate the wonderful accomplishment of
BB but we also celebrate the silent hero of
his sister who doesn't get recognition as much
as she should on a day like today.
I sit here and remember this day 7 years ago
and I am thankful to all,
to HOBL, to BG and to BB
who carried me through the hard times.
To the groups of AA and Alanon who became
our families when we needed them the most.
I, the mother of these two children, am
the luckiest of all.
Happy Birthday to Baby boy,
Thank you Baby girl.
You sort of half-assed the pictures on this one...... just grabbed the first two you found? They certainly doesn't match the story. A family photo would have worked much better. :) (I'm back)
ReplyDeletenope some days I want to remember them like this... baby boy's first birthday and his 7th sobriety birthday, and baby girl in an element no one has seen much of just like the element in this story that gets forgotten so often. so in essence the pictures were well thought out... oh and where have you been might I ask?
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