Tuesday, January 1, 2013

I love this sooo much just had to post it here, on this New Years day...

I often speak of the fact that I am so glad I am not responsible the raising
of children in today's technology age.
I probably would have the stupidist rules possible and I just know my babies
would hate my rules, but I would have rules.
So glad cell phones became  popular in their teenage years
and texting only after they were adults in the eyes of the world.
So, today, having read this letter that accompanied a 13 year old boys
Iphone for Christmas, made me want to shout out loud, "Yes!"
This is the exact same letter I would have wanted to attach to a phone
I had to hand a teenager.
Morals, responsibility and the compassion and love
to know this parent will remove the phone from his life if
he breaches any of the contract.
Save this you parents of younger ones...
It may come in big handy in your future.....
red, comments are mine...
Dear Gregory
Merry Christmas! You are now the proud owner of an iPhone. Hot Damn! You are a good & responsible 13 year old boy and you deserve this gift. But with the acceptance of this present comes rules and regulations. Please read through the following contract. I hope that you understand it is my job to raise you into a well rounded, healthy young man that can function in the world and coexist with technology, not be ruled by it. Failure to comply with the following list will result in termination of your iPhone ownership.
I love you madly & look forward to sharing several million text messages with you in the days to come.
1. It is my phone. I bought it. I pay for it. I am loaning it to you. Aren't I the greatest?
love, love, love this... Why are so many parents afraid to tell their child this simple truth?
2. I will always know the password.
Yes! Thank you!!! Don't use the excuse of I didn't know, I don't know their password...
I mean they are 13, you have the right to make the rules...
3. If it rings, answer it. It is a phone. Say hello, use your manners. Do not ever ignore a phone call if the screen reads "Mom" or "Dad". Not ever.
Because is a parental is calling, there is a reason, they have a need to know where you are,
what you are doing....
4. Hand the phone to one of your parents promptly at 7:30pm every school night & every weekend night at 9:00pm. It will be shut off for the night and turned on again at 7:30am. If you would not make a call to someone's land line, wherein their parents may answer first, then do not call or text. Listen to those instincts and respect other families like we would like to be respected.
yes! lesson one, it is your phone, you pay for it, you have a right to have it at night.
You know they will get a wonderful nights sleep without the technology 
filling their brains...
5. It does not go to school with you. Have a conversation with the people you text in person. It's a life skill. *Half days, field trips and after school activities will require special consideration.
Call me old school, but I don't believe in cell phones in school.
If it were up to me, a child would still have to ask permission from a school
adult to call home... I probably would change my mind about this if I were
a mother with a child in school with all the crazy things happening in schools...
6. If it falls into the toilet, smashes on the ground, or vanishes into thin air, you are responsible for the replacement costs or repairs. Mow a lawn, babysit, stash some birthday money. It will happen, you should be prepared.
This teaches the best lesson ever, not just about this preparedness but about 
an emergency fund for life... love this!
7. Do not use this technology to lie, fool, or deceive another human being. Do not involve yourself in conversations that are hurtful to others. Be a good friend first or stay the hell out of the crossfire.
8. Do not text, email, or say anything through this device you would not say in person.
I always would tell my kiddies, don't write anything down that you will not stand behind.
This stuff, it finds you for the rest of your life. Something you can do
at 13 can hurt you when you are an adult, getting a job.
I know they don't believe this, tell them anyway.
9. Do not text, email, or say anything to someone that you would not say out loud with their parents in the room. Censor yourself.
10. No porn. Search the web for information you would openly share with me. If you have a question about anything, ask a person ? preferably me or your father.
11. Turn it off, silence it, put it away in public. Especially in a restaurant, at the movies, or while speaking with another human being. You are not a rude person; do not allow the iPhone to change that.
This is a HOBL pet peeve... Hates that when we go somewhere
everyone is on their cells... I am not as crazy about it as he is,
but it does show a lack of respect....
I am working on this myself...
12. Do not send or receive pictures of your private parts or anyone else's private parts. Don't laugh. Someday you will be tempted to do this despite your high intelligence. It is risky and could ruin your teenage/college/adult life. It is always a bad idea. Cyberspace is vast and more powerful than you. And it is hard to make anything of this magnitude disappear -- including a bad reputation.
13. Don't take a zillion pictures and videos. There is no need to document everything. Live your experiences. They will be stored in your memory for eternity.
14. Leave your phone home sometimes and feel safe and secure in that decision. It is not alive or an extension of you. Learn to live without it. Be bigger and more powerful than FOMO -- fear of missing out.
15. Download music that is new or classic or different than the millions of your peers that listen to the same exact stuff. Your generation has access to music like never before in history. Take advantage of that gift. Expand your horizons.
16. Play a game with words or puzzles or brain teasers every now and then.
17. Keep your eyes up. See the world happening around you. Stare out a window. Listen to the birds. Take a walk. Talk to a stranger. Wonder without googling.
18. You will mess up. I will take away your phone. We will sit down and talk about it. We will start over again. You & I, we are always learning. I am on your team. We are in this together.
It is my hope that you can agree to these terms. Most of the lessons listed here do not just apply to the iPhone, but to life. You are growing up in a fast and ever changing world. It is exciting and enticing. Keep it simple every chance you get. Trust your powerful mind and giant heart above any machine. I love you. I hope you enjoy your awesome new iPhone. Merry Christmas!
Again, if I had youngens' I would be thanking this momma so much
for doing the hard work for me...
This is the bomb-diggity!
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  1. These phones are very annoying and wish they would take them off the market. You can't go eat a meal and enjoy time socializing without someone using the text at the dinner table. It is very disrespectful, and I also wonder why does anyone need to talk to someone constantly thru out the day. I myself enjoy the company of being all by myself not having to here the sounds and complaints of others bullshit. So I will continue to not include myself into the texting world and live like the older generation that wouldn't ignore people and need to speak with some one 24 hours a day.

  2. But he will continue to live vicariously through my texts, my emails questioning me constantly on who was that and who I talked to okay.,love him but wouldn't want to be him

  3. I got to question you because the whole time you are texting, I got to get some kind of communication with you.Its pretty boring riding in a car with someone thats constantly texting. If I ain't mistaking you admitted that you need to work on that in your blog, so there must be a issue if you think you need to change that in your life.

  4. oh HOBL... you have so much to learn about life.... including when someone is joking with you... life does not have to be sooo serious...

  5. Just hate texting with a passion,probably more than religion< but any way I'm tired and ready to head home.